You became a professional because you’re excellent at what you do.
Fractional CFO. Consultant. Attorney. Strategic advisor.
You solve complex problems. You create transformation. You deliver value that changes businesses.
But there’s one part of your job you pretend doesn’t exist: Selling.
Not because you’re lazy. Not because you don’t understand its importance.
Because it feels wrong.
Selling feels like:
– Being pushy
– Bothering people
– Compromising your integrity
– Admitting you need the work
– Doing something beneath you
So you try to delegate it. Outsource it. Automate it. Avoid it.
And you wonder why your pipeline suffers.
The Lie You Tell Yourself
Here’s what I hear constantly from talented professionals:
“I just want to focus on doing great work. The work should speak for itself.”
“I’m not a salesperson. That’s not what I do.”
“I hired a marketing person so I don’t have to think about this.”
“I’ll just join more networking groups. Someone will refer me.”
This is avoidance dressed up as strategy.
And it’s costing you everything.
Because here’s the truth you don’t want to hear:
You can’t delegate relationship building. You can’t outsource trust. You can’t automate becoming someone people want to work with.
That’s YOUR job.
Not because you’re bad at delegating. But because the work of building relationships requires you.
What You’re Actually Afraid Of
Let’s be honest about what’s really happening.
You’re not avoiding business development because you don’t have time.
You’re avoiding it because it scares you.
Fear #1: “I’ll come across as desperate or pushy.”
You see other professionals chasing clients aggressively and it makes your skin crawl.
The cold LinkedIn messages. The relentless follow-ups. The hard closes.
So you swing the other way. You do nothing. You wait to be found.
Because doing nothing feels more dignified than looking desperate.
Fear #2: “I’m not good at sales.“
You’re brilliant at what you do. You can solve problems most people can’t even see.
But put you in a conversation about working together? You freeze.
You don’t know what to say. You undersell yourself. You cave on price. You let prospects ghost you.
And you tell yourself: “I’m just not a salesperson. That’s not my strength.”
Fear #3: “Sales feels manipulative.”
You’ve been on the receiving end of manipulative sales tactics.
The bait-and-switch. The artificial urgency. The pressure close.
And you refuse to be that person.
So you don’t sell at all. Because you’ve conflated “selling” with “manipulation.”
Fear #4: “Good work should be enough.”
This is the big one.
You believe that if you just do excellent work, clients will naturally come to you.
Word will spread. Referrals will happen. You won’t have to “sell” anything.
This belief is killing your business.
Not because it’s entirely wrong. But because it’s incomplete.
What Selling Actually Is
Here’s what you don’t understand:
Selling isn’t manipulation. It’s clarification.
When you’re selling well, you’re:
Delivering value – Helping a prospect understand their problem and what’s possible
Qualifying opportunities – Determining if you’re the right fit (and having the courage to say no when you’re not)
Building relationships – Creating trust with people who might need you now or later
That’s not manipulation. That’s professionalism.
But most professionals have never learned to see it this way.
You think selling means:
– Convincing someone to buy something they don’t need
– Talking people into working with you
– Pushing past objections
– Closing at all costs
That’s not selling. That’s convincing.
And yes, convincing feels gross.
But actual selling? That’s something different entirely.
The Reframe You Need
Imagine a surgeon who refused to have conversations with patients about whether surgery was right for them.
“I just want to do surgeries. Talking to patients feels too much like selling.”
You’d think they were insane.
Because assessment, diagnosis, and recommendation ARE PART OF THE JOB.
The same is true for you.
Having conversations with prospects about whether you’re the right fit? That’s not separate from your professional work. That IS professional work.
Helping someone understand their problem and what’s possible? That’s delivering value, not manipulation.
Disqualifying a bad fit so you don’t waste their time or yours? That’s professional integrity, not rejection.
Building relationships with people who might need you eventually? That’s strategic thinking, not networking theater.
You are a professional. Act like one.
And professionals don’t avoid the hard conversations because they’re uncomfortable.
Why You Can’t Delegate This
Here’s where most professionals get stuck:
“Can’t I just hire someone to do this for me?”
No. You can’t.
You can hire someone to:
– Manage your CRM
– Write your LinkedIn posts
– Design your website
– Run your ads
But you can’t hire someone to:
– Build trust on your behalf
– Have strategic conversations with prospects
– Assess whether someone is a good fit
– Create the relationship that leads to referrals
Those things require you.
Not because you’re the only one capable. But because prospects aren’t buying a service. They’re buying access to YOU.
Your expertise. Your judgment. Your ability to see what they can’t see.
That can’t be outsourced.
When you try to delegate relationship building, here’s what happens:
Someone else sends the emails. Books the calls. Does the follow-up.
But when the prospect shows up on the call, they’re meeting you for the first time.
No relationship. No trust. No context.
And you wonder why conversion rates are low.
Because you tried to skip the part that actually matters.
What Professional Selling Looks Like
Let me show you what this actually looks like when you do it right:
Scenario: A prospect reaches out.
Amateur approach:
“Great! When can we start? Here’s my pricing. Let me know if you have questions.”
Professional approach:
“Thanks for reaching out. Before we talk about working together, I need to understand if I’m the right fit. Can we schedule 30 minutes for me to ask you some questions about what you’re trying to accomplish?”
What just happened?
You positioned yourself as someone who qualifies opportunities (not someone desperate for any client).
You established that YOUR time has value (not just theirs).
You created space to assess fit (instead of assuming everyone should work with you).
That’s professional selling.
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Scenario: Prospect asks about pricing early.
Amateur approach:
“My rate is $X. Does that work for your budget?”
Professional approach:
“Happy to discuss investment once I understand the scope of what you’re trying to accomplish. What outcome are you hoping to create?”
What just happened?
You anchored the conversation on value (not cost).
You established that you don’t quote without context (because you’re a professional, not a commodity).
You shifted from “Can you afford me?” to “Is this the right engagement?”
That’s professional selling.
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Scenario: You realize this prospect is a bad fit.
Amateur approach:
Stay in the conversation anyway because you need the work. Hope it works out.
Professional approach:
“Based on what you’ve shared, I don’t think I’m the right fit for this. You need someone who specializes in [X]. I’d be happy to introduce you to someone better suited.”
What just happened?
You protected your integrity (by not taking work you shouldn’t).
You demonstrated professional judgment (you know your limits).
You created goodwill (by making a helpful introduction).
That person will remember you. They’ll refer others. Because you acted like a professional.
That’s professional selling.
The Work You’re Avoiding
Most professionals avoid business development because they’ve never learned to see it as professional work.
They see it as:
– A necessary evil
– Something to “get through” so they can do their real work
– A distraction from delivering value
This is backwards.
Business development IS professional work.
Assessing whether someone is a good fit? Professional judgment.
Having conversations that help prospects see their problems clearly? Delivering value.
Building relationships with strategic partners who serve your ideal clients? Strategic thinking.
Disqualifying bad fits so you don’t waste time? Professional integrity.
None of that is beneath you. It’s all part of being excellent at what you do.
The Question You Need to Answer
Here’s what it comes down to:
Are you a professional who happens to need clients?
Or are you a professional who sees business development as part of professional excellence?
If it’s the first, you’ll keep avoiding it. Delegating it. Hoping it goes away.
And you’ll struggle.
If it’s the second, you’ll learn to do it well.
Not because you love it. But because it’s part of the job.
Just like the surgeon who doesn’t love the administrative work but does it anyway because it’s required.
Just like the attorney who doesn’t love business development but recognizes it’s part of building a sustainable practice.
You’re a professional. Act like one.
What This Actually Requires
Getting good at business development doesn’t mean:
– Becoming manipulative
– Convincing people to buy
– Being pushy or aggressive
– Compromising your integrity
It means:
– Having honest conversations about fit
– Delivering value before asking for anything
– Disqualifying bad fits quickly
– Building relationships with the right people
– Showing up consistently without being annoying
– Treating business development as professional work (not a side hustle)
This is learnable.
Not because you’re naturally good at sales. But because it’s a systematic process.
Just like everything else you’ve mastered in your career.
You weren’t born knowing how to be a fractional CFO. You learned.
You weren’t born knowing how to be a strategic consultant. You learned.
You can learn to be good at business development too.
If you’re willing to see it as professional work instead of something beneath you.
This Is the Work
The Productive Prospecting Trust Lab exists because most professionals need permission.
Permission to see business development as legitimate work.
Permission to get good at it without feeling like they’re selling out.
Permission to have systems and processes instead of just “being authentic.”
We teach you how to:
– Have qualification conversations that feel professional (not salesy)
– Build strategic partnerships that generate referrals (not random networking)
– Show up consistently without being annoying (systematic, not desperate)
– Disqualify bad fits with integrity (protect your practice)
– Position yourself as a trusted advisor (not a vendor)
But the first step is recognizing:
Sales Is Not a Dirty Word (And You Can’t Afford to Pretend It Is)
Business development is not beneath you.
You can’t delegate relationship building.
This is YOUR work. And you can be excellent at it.
Just like you’re excellent at everything else you do.
March Cohort Opens Soon
Registration opens February 17th.
12 weeks. Guided implementation. Weekly coaching.
For professionals who are ready to stop avoiding business development and start treating it like the professional work it is.
Want to see what referrals would offer your business development efforts? Grab the referral playbook HERE in our free resources.
— Breandan
P.S. — The Real Question
The question isn’t: “Am I good at sales?”
The question is: “Am I willing to see business development as part of professional excellence?”
If yes, everything else is learnable.
If no, you’ll keep struggling.
Which one is it?
